Loving an Addict part 2

So I got asked a few questions on my part 1.

Main one was

Are you and Cody still Together? 

The answer is yes, we are still together and our relationship has changed drastically. 

Did you forgive him 100%? 

No, honestly I have not forgiven him completely for the stuff he has done. Will I forgive him? Yes; I just need more than a year to forgive the amount of hurt he has caused me. 

Do you an cody talk about more kids?

Yes, we have talked about more kids. 

Is Cody helping out more than he was a year ago? 

Yes, he has the boys pretty much every day I work there are some days the boys choose to leave and go to my moms which is fine we all need our breaks every now and than.

  We decided to put our differences aside an raise our boys and work on this marriage before we just give it up! You can’t give up something so easily yes he hurt me yes he has caused me a lot of insecurities but he is my husband. Our boys need their parents to work together and get along. I personally don’t want to have to file those papers ever again. I bawled like a baby when I did the first time. 

  The thing with addicts is they don’t know they are hurting the ones they love while they are actively addicted. They can be told a million times but will not comprehend it until they are clean and even then they don’t understand how much damage they have truly caused. 

  Cody is by no means perfect but neither am I! My friends and family definitely don’t understand why I choose to stay and that’s fine. Until they are in my shoes they truly never will. I know there is good in him and I have seen it! They may never agree with my choice and that’s fine too. They don’t see the cody who makes me laugh, or the Cody who spends time with our boys. They don’t see the   Cody who will go out of his way to help someone in trouble. They may never see that side of him. He has not felt in his words “welcome” to my friends or family things because of  everything that has gone on. I have to told him if he showed up more than once a year he would feel welcome 😂. 

  Even trapped in our house due to this covid-19 has helped our relationship. 

  We have come far in the last year farther than a majority of people may know! I can’t wait to see what the rest of 2020 brings!